A Checklist for Meeting with Your Celebrant

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Planning your dream wedding? The celebrant you choose plays a vital role in making your ceremony heartfelt and memorable. From guiding you through legalities to crafting a personalised script, a celebrant becomes your partner in creating a ceremony that reflects your unique love story.

But before the "I do's," that first meeting with your celebrant is crucial. To ensure a productive and stress-free encounter, we've compiled a handy checklist to navigate this important step.

Choosing A Celebrant Checklist

• Availability: Discuss your wedding date and ensure the celebrant is free.
• Location: Confirm if the celebrant is willing to travel to your chosen venue and enquire about any travel fees associated.
• Experience: Ask about their experience conducting weddings, particularly ceremonies similar to yours (religious, non-religious, cultural themes).
• Style and Personality: Browse celebrant websites and read reviews to get a feel for their approach. During the meeting, observe their communication style – do they make you feel comfortable and heard?
• Legalities: Ensure the celebrant is registered to perform marriages in your state or territory.
• References: Request references from past couples the celebrant has married.
• Fees and Services: Get a clear breakdown of the celebrant's fees and exactly what services are included in their package (e.g., rehearsal, rehearsal dinner attendance, lodgement of legal documents).
• Availability for pre-marital counselling (if applicable): Discuss the celebrant's qualifications and fees for pre-marital counselling if you plan to utilise this service.

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Things to Consider When Picking a Celebrant

Finding the right celebrant goes beyond ticking boxes. Here are some additional considerations to ensure you find someone who can truly capture the essence of your love story and create a ceremony that feels authentic and meaningful to you as a couple.

• Philosophy: Does the celebrant's approach to marriage ceremonies align with your values and beliefs? This could encompass your views on religion, family, or the overall tone of the ceremony (serious and traditional, lighthearted and celebratory, or something in between). Consider whether you want a celebrant who can incorporate religious elements or traditions or if you prefer a more secular approach.
  
  
• Creativity: Do you envision a traditional ceremony or something more personalised? Discuss the celebrant's flexibility in crafting a script that reflects your love story. Can they incorporate special readings, poems, cultural elements, or unique rituals that hold significance for you as a couple? For instance, if you share a love of a particular author, the celebrant could weave excerpts from their work into the ceremony. Or, if you come from different cultural backgrounds, the celebrant could help you design a ceremony that incorporates traditions from both cultures.
  
  
• Chemistry: This is key! You'll be sharing personal details about your relationship and discussing your hopes for the ceremony. A comfortable and open rapport with your celebrant is crucial. During your meeting, observe their communication style and see if their personality feels like a good fit for you. Do they ask thoughtful questions that demonstrate their interest in getting to know you as a couple? Do they listen attentively to your ideas and offer suggestions that resonate with you? Do they make you feel relaxed and heard?

Questions to Ask Your Celebrant

• What is your typical wedding ceremony process? (This helps you understand the celebrant's approach and timeline for crafting the ceremony. It also allows you to see if their process aligns with your expectations.)
• Can you provide samples of past ceremonies you've conducted? (Seeing examples gives you a sense of the celebrant's style and ability to personalise ceremonies. Do the samples resonate with you and your partner?)
• Do you offer pre-marital counselling services? (Optional, depending on your needs)
• What happens if the ceremony needs to be postponed due to unforeseen circumstances? (Understanding the celebrant's policy on postponements can give you peace of mind and avoid any confusion or stress closer to the wedding date.)
• What is your fee structure, and what's included in your services? (This ensures there are no hidden costs and that both you and the celebrant are on the same page about what's covered.)
• How do you handle rehearsals? (Discuss the rehearsal process to ensure it's efficient and covers everything you need.)
• What happens on the wedding day if I forget my vows or make a mistake? (It's good to know the celebrant has a plan B in case of minor mishaps, helping you feel more relaxed on your big day.)
• Can we customise our vows? If so, can you provide some guidance? (Many couples want personalised vows. Knowing the celebrant's comfort level with customisation and their willingness to guide you through the process is important.)

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Wedding Day Checklist for Celebrants

• Arrive Early: Ensure that your celebrant arrives at the ceremony venue well in advance to set up and coordinate with other vendors.
• Dress Appropriately: Dress professionally and appropriately for the occasion, taking into account the style and theme of the wedding.
• Communicate Clearly: Communicate with the couple, wedding party, and other vendors to coordinate the timing and flow of the ceremony.
• Stay Calm: Maintain a calm and reassuring demeanour throughout the ceremony, especially if unexpected challenges arise.
• Celebrate: After the ceremony, take a moment to celebrate with the newlyweds and their guests, spreading joy and positivity.

Feeling a good connection with your celebrant is important.  After the meeting, take some time to reflect on how you felt. Did they ask thoughtful questions? Did they seem enthusiastic about your vision? Trust your gut instinct when making your final decision.

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